Behavior Management techniques to utilise in decreasing unwanted behavior and increasing desirable behavior during caring for children.
Reiterate the rules/routine the parents have given you in front of the children. When on a Babysitting Assignment and meeting families for a one occasion as often they will try to fool you. .
Children do as you do. Model appropriate behaviour and be a Role Model. .
Show the child how you feel. Tell him honestly how their behaviour affects you. This will help them see his her own feelings in yours, like a mirror. This is called empathy give the child the chance to see things from your perspective.
Catch them being ‘good’. This simply means that when the child is behaving in a way you like, you can give him/her some positive feedback.
Get down to the child’s level. Kneeling or squatting down next to children is a very powerful tool for communicating positively with them. Getting close allows you to tune in to what they might be feeling or thinking. It also helps them focus on what you are saying or asking for.
‘I hear you.’ Active listening is another tool for helping young children cope with their emotions. They tend to get frustrated a lot, especially if they can’t express themselves well enough verbally. When you repeat back to them what you think they might be feeling, it helps to relieve some of their tension. It also makes them feel respected and comforted. It can diffuse many potential temper tantrums.
Keep promises. Stick to agreements. When you follow through on your promises, good or bad, your child learns to trust and respect you. This helps the child feel more secure, because it creates a consistent and predictable environment.
Reduce temptation. Your phone look like so much fun to play with it’s hard for children to remember not to touch. Reduce the chance for innocent but costly exploration by keeping that stuff out of sight.
Choose your battles. By keeping instructions, requests and negative feedback to a minimum, you create less opportunity for conflict and bad feelings. Rules are important, but use them only when it’s really important especially if these children only come in our lives for a short period of time. As long as they are happy and safe that is all that matters.
Keep it simple and positive. If you can give clear instructions in simple terms, your child will know what is expected of him. (‘Please hold my hand when we cross the road.’) Stating things in a positive way gets their heads thinking in the right direction. For example, ‘Please shut the gate’ is better than ‘Don’t leave the gate open’.
Maintain a sense of humour. Another way of diffusing tension and possible conflict is to use humour and fun. You can pretend to become the menacing tickle monster or make animal noises. But humour at the child’s expense won’t help. Young children are easily hurt by ‘teasing’. Humour that has you both laughing is great.
Patience Patience Patience….